DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: What advice do you have for a new mother? I didnt grow up in a stable home, and I dont want to make the same mistakes my mother made, even if they werent always her fault. V. M.
By BILLY GRAHAM
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DEAR V.M.: Tomorrow is Mothers Day across our nation, a time when we should not only honor our mothers, but also thank God for all theyve meant to us. Perhaps your mother wasnt perfect, but she still gave you life and took care of you when you could not take care of yourself. One of the Ten Commandments declares, Honor your father and your mother so that it may go well with you (Deuteronomy 5:16).
How can you be a better mother? First, love your children and let them know you love them. They are a responsibility God has entrusted to you and your husband, but they also are a God-given gift, to be loved, treasured and enjoyed. One of the ways you love them is by teaching them about life. The Bible says, My son do not forsake your mothers teaching (Proverbs 6:20).
Then dont be afraid to say no when your children do wrong, and to back it up with appropriate discipline (but not in anger). Be sure you and your husband agree, however; children are very adept at playing off one parent against the other! Always letting a child have his or her own way may seem like the loving thing to do at the time, but in reality its a sure recipe for problems later on.
Finally, put Christ at the center of your family and your life. Read the Bible and pray with your children; help them realize why church is important; let them see Christ in your relationship with each other. May God bless you and every mother on this special day.
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