DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: How can you forgive someone whos really hurt you, and yet they dont even realize it? My business partner was lazy and it eventually destroyed our company, but he still blames it all on the economy. Id be a hypocrite if I said Id forgiven him, because I cant. J.G.
By BILLY GRAHAM
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DEAR J.G.: Forgiving someone who has deeply hurt us no matter what they did is one of the hardest things some of us will ever do. Its so hard, in fact, that I dont believe we can really do it without Gods help. But with Gods help we can and I pray youll discover this truth for yourself as you learn to forgive this person.
What is the key? The key is to understand how God has forgiven us. We dont deserve to be forgiven; weve rebelled against God and turned our backs on him, and theres no reason why he should forgive us for our sins. Even if we think were fairly good, we still arent worthy of Gods forgiveness. As the Bible says, There is no one righteous, not even one (Romans 3:10).
And yet God reaches out and offers to forgive us not because we deserve it, but simply because of his grace and mercy and love. His grace is so great that he sent his son into the world to pay the price for our redemption. If God forgave us in spite of our sin, shouldnt we forgive others the same way? The Bible says, Forgive as the Lord forgave you (Colossians 3:13).
Dont hold on to your bitterness and anger any longer for theyll become a poison to your soul. Instead, ask God to forgive you for your own sins and then ask him to help you forgive this person and put the past behind you.
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