DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: I suppose I ought to apologize to someone Ive hurt, but I cant bring myself to do it. Should I just forget about it, since I know shes still angry at me and Im sure it wont do any good to apologize? D.T.
By BILLY GRAHAM
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DEAR D.T.: If youre sincerely sorry for what you did, then you certainly should apologize to her even if you think shell reject your apology. But you shouldnt only apologize; you should also ask for her forgiveness.
After all, if you dont seek forgiveness, the split between you will always remain. More than that, youll always wonder if you might have misread the situation, and therefore missed an opportunity to heal the hurt you caused. From what you say, youre the one at fault for what happened, and therefore its up to you to take the initiative and reach out. The Bible tells us to Live in peace with each other (1 Thessalonians 5:13).
We cant control how people will react when weve wronged them and then ask for forgiveness; they may or may grant their forgiveness. But that shouldnt keep us from facing honestly the wrongs weve done, then doing everything we can to mend the damage. Remember: Not everyone accepts Gods offer of forgiveness, but he still offers it to us. Have you turned to Jesus Christ for the forgiveness you need?
In addition, learn from this experience and resolve, with Gods help, to avoid hurting others in the future (both by what you do and what you say). Ask God to help you to be kind and compassionate toward others. The Bible says, Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves (Philippians 2:3).
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