OK, Beyonces lip-syncing was a letdown, but overall this weeks inaugural ceremonies were glorious. Providing, I suppose, that you approved of the person being inaugurated.
By BARBARA SHELLY
The Kansas City Star
One of the highlights was a rare prolonged sighting of Malia and Sasha Obama. From the moment the presidents daughters took their seats for the ceremony, CNN could hardy keep its cameras off of them. Only the appearance of their mom and their dad provided a distraction. And who knew the first daughters had iPhones before they were spotted goofing around with them during the parade?
Uncivil as our political climate is these days, we do a pretty good job of respecting the privacy of the children of presidents. Barack and Michelle Obama, George W. and Laura Bush and Bill and Hillary Clinton all scrupulously shielded their kids from the spotlight, which seems to have turned out well for the kids.
But the unwritten rule (which the National Rifle Association was crass enough to violate last week) that presidential offspring are off limits in political conversation serves to obscure an important aspect of the nations leaders.
That is, their parenting.
For all the attention paid to Barack Obamas childhood absentee father, mother with wanderlust, raised partly by grandparents less is made of his family life as an adult.
And thats too bad because as an engaged dad who is keenly interested in his kids schooling, Obama has a lot to say to the nation.
Theres been much said and written lately about the presidents aloofness. He doesnt socialize with members of Congress. He doesnt do dinner parties. At least twice recently, Ive heard someone mention on the news that Obama has never had Bill Clinton over to the White House for dinner. The emphasis on this presumed oversight is puzzling; its not as though former President Clinton isnt familiar with the White House dining room.
No one talks much about Obamas regular dinner partners reportedly his wife and children. And the president probably isnt consciously trying to make a policy statement by eating with the family. But a lot of educators, psychologists and politicians across the spectrum would agree that regular family meals with interesting conversations are a great tool for raising smart and emotionally and physically healthy kids.
During his first campaign, in 2008, Obama gave a bold speech on Fathers Day in an Apostolic church on Chicagos South Side, declaring that too many fathers, especially in African-American communities, had waived their responsibilities to their children.
We know the statistics that children who grow up without a father are five times more likely to live in poverty and commit crime; nine times more likely to drop out of schools and 20 times more likely to end up in prison, Obama said. He urged fathers to be engaged in their childrens lives and said, what makes you a man is not the ability to have a child, its the courage to raise one.
Not surprisingly, that speech set off a ruckus. Jesse Jackson denounced Obama for talking down to black people and was promptly denounced in turn for being in denial. Somebody needs to address the link between absentee fathers and child poverty, an especially severe problem in black neighborhoods. Who better than the nations first black president?
In his first term, Obama announced the Presidents Fatherhood and Mentoring Initiative, designed to promote the role of fathers or father figures in childrens lives. He sought money to support job training programs for dads and families.
Some conservatives regarded all of this as more evidence of a plot to diminish the institution of traditional marriage. Some liberals worried that the president was linking up with conservatives in a pro-family alliance that suggests parents must be failing the personal responsibility test if they and their children are poor.
Well, family matters get complicated; no news there. But count me as one who wants Obama to speak out forcefully in his second term on behalf of good parenting and strong family bonds. A healthy population and educated workforce begin right there.
There are good reasons for the first daughters to avoid the public eye. But the first dad should be front and center.