Q. Dear Abby: My wife and I run a restaurant in a small town. Recently, my wife came home on my day off and told me that during the lunch hour, one of our servers had come into the kitchen and announced that they’d need extra sanitizer on table 29 because a mother was changing her baby on it!
By Jeanne Phillips
What has happened in our society that people don’t understand that this is unsanitary and rude? Had I been there, I don’t know that I could have kept a civil tongue, and I feel like people today regard my disgust as unreasonable. Is there something I’m missing here? — Cafe Crazy
A. Dear “Crazy”: I don’t know who you have been talking to, but your disgust is NOT “unreasonable.” What that mother was missing was common sense and courtesy for those around her. I agree that changing a baby on a restaurant table was out of the ballpark — particularly if a changing table was available in the women’s restroom of your cafe. (I’m assuming there is one, but if there isn’t, the situation should be immediately rectified.)
Ready to remarry
Q. Dear Abby: My husband, “Gene,” and I were married for five years until our divorce six months ago. We still live together and are dating each other. We had so many issues, I felt there needed to be a fresh start, including filing for divorce and living apart.
Now that we have started over, moved away from our hometown and gotten rid of several “friends,” our issues are gone and we’re financially stable. In fact, our relationship is better than ever.
Since things are now worked out, I’d like us to get remarried. I told him before our divorce that I hoped we could resolve things and marry again. Now he’s not sure, because he says if we got divorced again, he couldn’t bear the hurt. He says he still doesn’t understand why our “fresh start” included a divorce.
Abby, we love each other. We want to be together forever and have children. I don’t want to be dating my ex-husband indefinitely. Do you have advice for us? — Going Nowhere in Washington
A. Dear Going Nowhere: I sure do. In the interest of solidifying your fresh start, you and Gene should sign up for some premarital counseling. If you do, you may be able to help him understand why you felt the way you did. With counseling, you can be sure that your problems are fully resolved, and it may reassure him that this time there won’t be another divorce. © 2013 Universal Uclick 1/4