Q. Dear Abby: I’m a male who has graduated from high school and is about to start college in another state. I’m ready for a new challenge. The only thing holding me back is a romantic attraction I have toward one of my high school teachers.
By Jeanne Phillips
He and I are best friends, but I love him more than as a friend. I have bought him many meals and gifts since he taught me, and I have found every opportunity available to be with him. I’m not sure if he’s aware of my feelings, although I wonder whether I unconsciously make myself obvious. Regardless, we have a great relationship. It kills me inside to know I can never be with him.
I have never told anyone how I feel, and I know if I ever told him, it would destroy everything we have. I can’t forget about him. He’s on my mind constantly. Having to leave him soon is killing me. Do you have any advice for me? — Dreading It in Louisiana
A. Dear Dreading It: Yes. Go away to college and open yourself to new experiences and relationships. Correspond with this special person, and when you return for school breaks, continue the friendship. Your feelings may or may not be reciprocated, but it is important that you let some time — years — elapse before trying to pursue anything closer with him. If you don’t wait, it could be damaging to his career.
Hair stylist etiquette
Q. Dear Abby: What are you supposed to do when you are sitting in a salon having your hair cut and styled, and the next appointment shows up early and engages your stylist in nonstop conversation?— Perplexed in California
A. Dear Perplexed: For the stylist to carry on an ongoing conversation with the next customer was unprofessional. If it happened to me, I would take my stylist aside and explain my feelings.
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