DEAR ABBY: My son’s girlfriend is pregnant. I think there is a chance it may not be his, although she claims it is. “Ben” met “Christy,” and a little over a week later she announced she was pregnant. She’s now 34 weeks into the pregnancy.
I have asked him repeatedly if he is sure the baby is his and he says yes, but the math doesn’t seem right to me. I have suggested Ben seek a paternity test, but I don’t think he’s going to take my advice. I am not the only person who is questioning this, and I feel terrible for having the doubt. He has asked Christy to marry him, and she accepted. I couldn’t believe it. They were going to marry that same month, but when Ben mentioned a prenuptial agreement to protect the real estate and other property he owns (and that I’m financially involved in), Christy blew up! She just about kicked Ben to the curb. Now, thankfully, the wedding is postponed. Christy’s overboard reaction has added to my suspicion. What do you think, Abby? — Suspicious Dad DEAR DAD: I agree that before your son marries Christy, everything should be out in the open. Regardless of whose child she is carrying, your son may be in love with her, and it may not matter to him. If the child is indeed his, a paternity test would lay any doubts to rest. That said, I spoke with my gynecologist and asked how long after conception it would take for a pregnancy to show up in a test, and was told the answer is one week AFTER A WOMAN’S PERIOD IS LATE. For Ben not to insist on having a prenuptial agreement under these circumstances would be a mistake.Painful lossesDEAR ABBY: My mother died suddenly three years ago, and my sister overdosed a year later. I didn’t know she was so depressed. Her son, “Jordan,” is the joy of my life. Every time I watch him, all I can think of is “Why?” Why did my sister choose to leave us alone? I don’t know how to move on when I look at Jordan and think of my sister. Please help. — Left With the Memories DEAR LEFT: Please accept my deepest sympathy for the multiple losses you have suffered. Although you feel left alone by your sister’s suicide, the truth is you are NOT alone. In the United States, millions of people’s lives have been touched by suicide. When your sister overdosed, she may have been acting on impulse and trying to end what she perceived to be intolerable pain. Please contact the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. Among the programs it offers is a listing of support groups. The website is www.afsp.org; the phone number is 1-888-333-2377. Author Eric Marcus has written an excellent book on this subject, “Why Suicide?” published by Harper One. He, like you, has been touched by suicide, and you may find the answers you’re looking for by reading it.© 2011 Universal Uclick 9/7Read more Advice Columns
Posted on Tue, Sep. 06, 2011 10:15 PM
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